I’ve traveled a lot on my own.
Despite being a seasoned solo traveler, when my friend pulled out of our planned New York trip, I freaked out at the prospect of traveling to New York alone.
For a while, the trip was off. Not wanting to give up, I asked another person to travel with me but unfortunately, she couldn’t go either.
I found myself questioning why I could travel by myself to cities like London and Berlin, yet not be brave enough to travel to New York alone?
So what do you do when you have your heart set on a trip?
You put your big girl pants on and go by yourself.
I’m happy to report that I have recently returned from two glorious weeks in New York by myself. I had a total ball. It was an amazing trip!
If you have been thinking about heading to the Big Apple but don’t have anyone to travel with, here are my top 10 tips for traveling to New York alone.
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So what does it mean to blend in? Catch the subway. Dine where the locals go, which means avoiding touristy chain restaurants (particularly in Times Square). Dine at restaurants later in the evening.
Blending in is more about attitude. Act like you know where you are going and that you belong there.
For knowing my way around, I personally love The New York Mapguide. I know paper is old school but it’s perfect for getting a fantastic overview of the city. I study it before I go and take it with me on my trip. A bit of prior research can make a big difference. It’s small enough to carry around in your handbag which is great.
For me this trip, having a more authentic experience involved taking a course. I attended the fabulous 2-day Blogcademy workshop. I learned a lot about blogging, meet some incredible people, had fun and hung out in Brooklyn.
Use the number of people to your advantage
There are people everywhere in New York City! Literally millions of them are in Manhattan at any one time.
While some people might find this a bit overwhelming, I say use it to your advantage. For starters blending into crowds is easier. This way you won’t feel like you are sticking out by being on your own.
You can also leverage positive energy from having lots of people around. New York has an energy and buzz that is quite unique. Tap into that and feel invigorated.
Lots of people around also means interesting people to talk to.
Talk to people
One of the reasons many people don’t travel by themselves is because they are worried about being lonely.
To be honest this isn’t a problem for me. I live in a two bedroom townhouse with myself and my beautiful cat so I’m used to spending time alone.
Whilst I wasn’t lonely, I’m still a social creature so I made the effort to speak to people. I randomly chatted to people at restaurants, bars, and cinema lines. I had a lovely conversation with a local woman while waiting to see a Broadway show. I had dinner one night with a fellow traveler after meeting at the hotel bar.
You don’t have to be an extrovert to meet people (I’m an introvert myself) you just have to be open to having a conversation. You also might need to be the one who initiates a conversation.
The key is to reach out to people.
I’ve written a separate post on how to do just that – How To Meet People When You Travel By Yourself
Tours can be a great way of meeting people (depending on the tour naturally) and New York has a lot of tours on offer.
Get comfortable dining by yourself
A lot of people find dining alone intimidating though sometimes I wonder why. I have been in restaurants where couples next to me barely spoke to each other during dinner. Having a dinner companion doesn’t necessarily translate to someone to talk to!
This trip was the first time I had a smartphone, so if I didn’t feel like talking to people over dinner it was easy to use the phone as a barrier of sorts. As a reader, I often have a book in my bag, which is perfect for reading over a solo lunch if I feel like it.
Most of the time however I relax, enjoy myself and people watch. New York is a fantastic people watching town!
If you are uncomfortable sitting at a table by yourself, find a restaurant with bar service (there are tonnes of them in New York). Most people eating at the bar are by themselves so you will blend right in.
If you know you will be traveling alone, practice dining out in your hometown. Spend the time getting comfortable with dining alone before your big trip.
Related post – 8 Glorious Reasons You Should Travel By Yourself
Choose your accommodation wisely
Hotels in New York are expensive. I’m not even going to sugar coat that for you. Paying for a decent room by yourself (including all of the taxes) can be a bit of a financial hit.
If you are up for it there are hostels. I’ve stayed in hostels before in other countries but nowadays my personal preference is to have my own bathroom.
Hotel rooms can be small so be prepared. I’ve lived in small apartments so it doesn’t particularly bother me. With so many things to do in New York, you don’t spend a lot of time in your room anyway.
Because I was traveling alone, I put a lot of thought into picking my hotel. I stayed at Pod 39 on 39th Street just off Lexington Avenue. I loved it! The room was small (it was called a pod so I was fully expecting that) but the hotel was clean, safe and social.
The social elements were one of the deciding factors in choosing the hotel.
The hotel had a fabulous Mexican restaurant called Salvation Taco, a games room (which I used one day when it was pouring down raining) and a fabulous open rooftop bar which I used many times! Though I could have stayed in a cheaper bed and breakfast, I choose the Pod specifically for its social aspect.
Next time I’ve decided to take the plunge and try Airbnb, where you stay in someone’s house to have a more authentic New York experience at a cheaper price, depending on what accommodation you choose naturally!
Location location location
Of course, it’s not just about what facilities the hotel provides it’s about the hotel’s location.
Regardless of whether I go with a group of friends or by myself, staying near a subway station is a must.
On my recent trip, my closest station was Grand Central (42nd Street) which has to be seen to be believed at peak hour! It was 3 short blocks from my hotel and had easy connections to other subway lines.
When traveling (and let’s face it at home as well) safety is paramount so pick a safe and busy neighborhood (thankfully this describes most of Manhattan’s neighborhoods nowadays).
Whilst I did catch taxis to restaurants at night, I did find myself making the most of the local restaurants near the hotel. Keep that in mind when booking a room. If you want to try a lot of restaurants in Chelsea for instance, look for accommodation close to the area.
Thinking of taking a tour or visiting New York’s amazing museums – Viator has a range of New York tours and passes you can buy before you leave to save money.
For entry to incredible museums and observation decks grab yourself a CityPASS. (I’ve done the research and you will save money if you buy the pass, not to mention you’ll save time queuing). This pass works best if you are in town for a couple of days and use all the tickets available in the pass.
Ask around before you go overseas
New York is a popular holiday destination. You might be surprised how many people you know might be there at the same time as you.
The timing was perfect for me this trip. One of the ladies from work was holidaying with her husband and we all caught up for dinner one night and two of my other co-workers were also in town.
Ask around at work, run it by your friends, ask your friends if any of their friends are heading over when you are. You might be pleasantly surprised who is in town at the same time.
Use common sense
Don’t go staggering around drunk either by yourself or with any new friends you might have met (ie total strangers).
Don’t be stupid about your safety.
One evening after an early dinner with friends in the Meatpacking District I walked back to my hotel. It was about 26 blocks uptown and 9 blocks across. Normally I would have jumped in a taxi.
Being my fifth trip to New York I knew the areas I was walking through well. I stuck to the main avenues which were crowded with people (many of them walking home from dinner themselves) and made sure all of the side streets I walked down were busy, well-lit and again streets I knew well. There was no chance of me getting lost.
I used my common sense and had a lovely evening stroll back to my hotel.
Trust your gut
This piece of advice pretty much applies to everyday life regardless of whether you are at home or traveling alone.
If you have a feeling something or someone is suspect, trust your instinct.
If you sense trouble get the hell out of there.
You will be amazed how many people will walk towards possible trouble because they want to see what is going on (many with a smartphone in their hand filming)!
Do whatever you want
This my friends is the joy of traveling by yourself!
You can do whatever you want. If you want to stay out all night you can. If you want to sleep in, ditto. If you want to spend all day in a museum you don’t need to fight with your friends who would rather be shopping. There is no compromising with people on what you want to do.
You decide what you want to do with your time. Heaven!
If you want to travel but don’t have anyone to go with you, don’t miss out! There are so many solo travelers out there having the time of their lives.
Be brave and make your dreams come true, get out there and travel by yourself!
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Really enjoyed reading your tips, I’m 26 and planning on visiting New York on my own this year, I’ve had a bad year with break ups and need to find myself, I think going to New York will be the best way to do that. I have been once before and fell in love with the city, but this time I will be on my own. It will be a huge hurdle for me as I’ve never been on my own before, but I feel as though I need to do this. My main worry would be fitting in, I don’t want to come across as a tourist but I want to see and do everything I can. Hopefully I’ll find myself in the big apple! Thank you for the tips!
I’m in a similar situation as you. How was your trip? Any advice?
It’s Thea from Write Change Grow. My apologies for not getting back to you sooner.
So how was your trip to New York? Have you been already or are you ready to take off soon? Would love to hear how it all went.
Dear Elizabeth, I thought I would say hello after reading your comment. Like you, I experienced a breakup just 2 months ago and have decided to take a solo trip to NYC to “find myself” and “get my mojo back”, ha ha. NYC is verrrrry far from where I live and I must say that all this planning and looking forward has helped to take my mind off things. May I ask if you’ve planned your trip? I will be there next month. Can’t wait!
It’s Thea from Write Change Grow replying to your comment. My sincerest apologies for the delay in getting back to you.
So how did your trip to New York go? How long were you there for?
I really hope it helped in getting your mojo back 🙂
I would love to hear how it went. Do you have any great spots accommodation or restaurant wise that you would recommend to other people travelling on their own?
Again thank you for your comment back to Elizabeth and I hope you had an amazing time!!!
hope to hear back from you with all the travel goss 🙂
It’s Thea from Write Change Grow. Thank you so much for commenting on my travelling to New York by yourself post. My sincere apologies for taking so long to get back to you but I got a bit obsessed with finishing my new eBook and pretty much neglected everyone, so I am truly sorry.
So have you been to New York yet? If so, how did it go? I hope you had a fantastic time!! How did you feel travelling on your own?
I would love to hear back from you Elizabeth to hear either how your trip went or how the prep for the trip is going if you haven’t gone as yet!
I hope to hear back from you and thanks again for your great comment. 🙂
Hi! I’m thinking about going to New York for two weeks this summer and take a language course. I’m an 18 year old girl, do you think it’s safe for me to go alone? I’ve never been so far away from home (I’m from Europe) by myself but I’m positive that I will learn and grow a lot from doing this.
It’s Thea from the Write Change Grow blog relying to your comment. I am so sorry for the delay in replying, I got a bit obsessed finishing my new eBook and neglected everyone so I am really sorry for that.
I am not sure if I am too late, have you been to New York already? Or are you still planning on going? I definitely think you could go by yourself and the language course sounds great. If you have already been, what did you think? Did you have an amazing time?
I would love to hear how the trip went or hear about your plans if you haven’t gone as yet!!
I hope to hear back from you.
Hi! I’m in New York right now, got here on Saturday and I’ll be staying till 6/25. I love it here, definitely made the right decision! 🙂
Woo hoo I just spotted your reply come in!! I am super excited that you are there now, talk about timing! So glad to hear that you are loving it and that it was definitely the right decision for you. 🙂
I’m thrilled for you Tilda. Have a great time and I would love to hear how the trip went and any tips on restaurants, spots to go or places that you loved after your trip is over. Have a ball…
First of all, thank you for your blog on travelling alone to NYC. A few days ago I booked my flight to go to NYC all by myself. I will be there from September 1st untill Sept. 9th. I have wanted to go there ever since I was a little boy, so I’m very excited to finally go! Do you have any tips in which neighborhood to look for hostels? I’d like to be close to the subway of course, but I’d like to walk to nice restaurants (where locals go as well), and bars. NYC is quite big obviously and I’d hate to have to take a 40 min. subway everyday to get anywhere. Thanks in advance!
Kind regards, Jasper (The Netherlands)
Thanks for your email, great to hear from you. I am super excited for you that you booked your trip to New York. Very exciting!!
I have to admit I haven’t stayed in any hostels in New York over the years (though I have stayed in quite a few different hotels). I’m sure that are some great hostels though. Not sure what your budget is but might pay to check out the prices of some of the inn style accommodation where you get your own room but share a bathroom.
I would definitely stay in Manhattan as you mentioned you don’t want to be catching long subway rides. I would probably look for something around Chelsea, Greenwich Village, Meatpacking district or East Village. Soho is another good area but it can be a bit more expensive so not sure if many hostels are in that area. I also love the area around Union Square, there is always something going on there. I have stayed on the Upper West Side (right up at the top of the park at around of 107th Street) lots of locals and restaurants but a little further away from things so I probably give that a miss for your first time. Probably avoid staying too far up Upper East side as well.
I’m actually not a big fan of staying in Times Square (far too touristy) but in saying that it might have some well priced hostels. If you decide on Times Square just make sure you get out of that area a lot!! There are some great restaurants over on 9th and 10th Street (the old Hell’s Kitchen).
I have stayed in a couple of midtown hotels near Madison Square Garden. Whilst it’s not the grooviest part of town it is a short walk from a lot of great places and the hotels there are often good value (though again not sure what hostels are available).
The great thing about New York is that there are bars and restaurant everywhere (such an amazing choice!!) so you are usually not far away from things. Like you mentioned being near a subway is important so take that into account with your accommodation. When you catch the subway make sure you don’t catch an express train by mistake! Just work out which one is for you and then you are set. 🙂 Once you get familiar with the subway, it’s a great way of getting around. I must have looked like I fitted in and knew what I was doing because I got asked for directions a lot!
I hope this has helped a little. Hope I haven’t given you too many options, the hardest part can be picking somewhere to stay :). I would love to hear how you go. It’s an amazing city and you will love it.
I hope you find a great hostel that you are really happy with. Take care and hope to hear how the trip goes 🙂
I live in the UK and i’m looking to go to NewYork to meet someone ive been talking to, ill be staying with them, they’ll be looking after me and showing me around but ive never been before and never got on a plane before especially so far away, everythings scary to me, i’m thinking all worst scenarios; what if my wifi doesn’t work and i can’t get intouch with anyone, flights delays, not knowing my way around airports, etc do you have any advice? I wanna live fir the moment but i’m also so nervous!
Haha thanks in advance
I wouldn’t come to NYC alone to meet someone you don’t know well. I especially wouldn’t stay with them.