After struggling and working so hard for what you want, what happens when you discover your dream job isn't what you want after all. Read the post to find out.

When I first started Write Change Grow my professional goal was to become a successful full-time freelance writer writing for magazines, newspapers and online.

I wanted to become a freelance writer.

In the beginning, I spent a lot of time brainstorming articles, pitching, researching and of course, writing.

It took a lot of going without, sacrifices, and struggle to get myself in a position to leave my full-time administration job so that I would focus on freelancing and blogging full time.

Imagine my surprise when after all the effort I put in, I discovered that being a freelance writer isn’t what I wanted.

I came to this decision when I realized that I strongly disliked a key element of the role.

It was at this point, that I realized freelance writing (at least in the format that I was pursuing it) wasn’t for me.

It came as quite a shock. 

It can be challenging to work hard for something only to discover that you are on the wrong path and need to find another one.

If this happens to you, here are my tips for working through it.

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Don’t panic

Your first thought might be to panic particularly if you have invested a lot of time, money and energy (or most likely all three) into trying to achieve a particular goal.

If you are feeling a bit panicked, it might be time to focus on some self-care so that you can face the next chapter in a more relaxed and calm state of mind.

If you feel you need to take some time out to work out what comes next than give yourself that time.

It’s all part of the process to get where you are meant to be.

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Don’t assume you wasted your time

In our time-poor society, we are quick to stress about how we utilize our time.

You might start thinking you wasted a big chunk of your time working towards the wrong goal. No matter how much you change direction, your earlier work won’t be a total waste.

You will have learned so much and most likely grown as a person, which will ultimately all add to your skill set, experience, and development.

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Don’t drive yourself crazy with what if’s

What if’s might be fun when you are brainstorming in a positive way but they can be quite soul-destroying when used in a negative manner.

It’s the old coulda woulda shoulda. If you start going down this path you probably aren’t doing yourself any favors. It won’t help you to dwell on what might have been.

Your focus needs to be firmly on what to do next.

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Don’t assume it’s too late

Some younger people might be reading this and thinking – so what’s the big deal, it’s common to change university degrees or change careers? The fact is many of us will change careers several times throughout our lives.

Changing careers can get slightly more daunting when we have a mortgage, kids, elderly parents to take care of, young babies or a host of other personal and financial commitments.

Is it possible to start something else? Absolutely, it’s never too late. Can it be daunting and scary? Hell, yes.

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Let go of the old dream

Sometimes it can be hard letting go of a dream.

I can only imagine the pain of an athlete who has their whole career ahead of them and then suffers a terrible injury which puts them out of the sport. They then have to come up with a new career plan.

Not easy stuff.

Hopefully, most of us are not faced with such heartbreaking career decisions.

Sometimes we need the strength and courage to let something go, so we can move onto the next opportunity.

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Have a detailed plan for moving in a new direction

This is the big one.

It’s perfectly fine to change your mind about what you want to do with your life and how you want to earn a living.

But you need something important.

You need a new goal to work towards. 

You need to work out what you want and what you need to do to get there.

When it comes to setting a new goal, the Slay Your Goals Planner can definitely help.

The Slay Your Goals Planner by Nadalie Bardo can help you work out your intentions as well as the why, what, where, when and how of your goals. You can read my review of this planner in an earlier post.

You can also download the Free Slay Your Goals Guide to get a feel for the planner.

Giving up my freelancing dream made me realize what I love doing.

Helping and inspiring people is what I am truly passionate about.

I enjoy motivating people to take the next step and inspiring them to look deeper at an issue or to view it from a different angle. 

I love helping people feel good about themselves. 

Once you realize you need to choose a different path, get your new plan together and get cracking!

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