We all have those life-changing moments that change us and our lives forever.
Sometimes we instigate these moments ourselves, while others are thrust upon us. Sometimes it may take time to realize just how much one moment has affected our lives and changed its trajectory.
On occasion we don’t comprehend we are changing our lives – we view it as embarking on an adventure.
Of course, life-changing moments came in all shapes and sizes. Some we pray we never have. Some are tragic, sad, and totally out of our control.
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To work out when your last life-changing moment was, it helps to be able to define what a life-changing moment means to you.
To start the ball rolling I thought I would make a list of my own pivotal moments. I recommend you write up your own list as well.
- Being adopted
- Meeting my best friend when I was 13 (she is still my best friend 43 years later!)
- Leaving home when I was 18
- Going to the US for three months when I was 23 (I was engaged when I left, single when I got back)
- Moving to Sydney to live
- My parents getting divorced
- My first time in South East Asia and seeing how some people live in developing countries
- Living in London and being heartbroken and homeless after a breakup
- My Dad was diagnosed with Cancer and passed away
- Being made redundant from a job I loved
- Traveling around the world for 8 glorious months (not working any of that time)
- Buying my own home
- Working with a life coach
- Realizing I wanted to be a writer/blogger
- Starting my own blog
- Leaving work to start my own business
- Failing at business on my first attempt
- Being Fired
- Getting serious about my personal growth and knowing my worth
- Needing surgery
- The death of my step-father
- The death of my beloved cat
- The Pandemic (thankfully I’ve been Covid free so far) but the pandemic has certainly been life-changing (I’m definitely not alone with this one!)
- Getting a permanent job after years of temping and uncertainty.
Clearly, some of those moments were tragic. Losing my Dad had a huge impact on my life. It was one of the worst times of my life. There was also a bucket of heartache and loss (not listed) when relationships didn’t work out the way I thought they would.
Yet, there have been many, many joyful, wonderful times as well. There have been exciting adventures and acts of bravery, and fun.
I’m sure it is no coincidence that several of my life-changing moments have involved an airport.
Travel has changed my life in amazing ways.
There have been times when something bad, like being made redundant for example, has turned into a positive. The truth is some of the moments we consider awful at the time are often blessings in disguise.
For this post, I want to focus on the positive life-changing moments in our lives. To the ones we wholeheartedly want to embrace.
So when was the last time you had a positive life-changing moment?
Come on now, think hard.
If one or two popped into your head straight away, then bravo!
Maybe you are drawing a blank.
Perhaps your last moment was too long ago. Perhaps your life has been ambling along at the same steady pace. Nothing much happens. Nothing much changes. No ups and downs, just more of the same. Perhaps you like it that way.
But what if you don’t? What if you are bored out of your brain?
What if you are wondering, what the hell happened to my life?
If that is the case, it’s time to do something bold and adventurous. Something wild and crazy.
Let’s be clear here, wild and crazy doesn’t mean doing something stupid, like say running off and leaving your wife/husband and family. It doesn’t mean having an affair or an inappropriate relationship. That sort of behavior causes a lot of damage and creates drama and stress in your life, not excitement and adventure.
Don’t confuse creating drama with being bold.
Unfortunately, I made this mistake myself when I was younger, creating drama when there wasn’t any and when there didn’t need to be any.
I hate to admit this but I created drama in my life simply because I was bored. Because I felt lost.
I was literally looking for love and excitement in all the wrong places because I knew something was missing in my life.
Related posts and books to help you move forward –
- How to Stop Creating Drama in Your Life
- 12 Things to Remember When You Feel Not Good Enough
- The Mountain is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage into Self-Mastery by Brianna Wiest (This is an excellent book I’m reading about self-sabotage). 🙂
- 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Wiest (book)
Instead of seeking out drama, I should have done something creative or helped other people, which is what I was really craving.
In the above list, many of the positive changes were instigated by me. I chose them. I fought for them.
As far as the stuff on the list that was devastating and painful. The stuff that rocked me to my core. I fought hard to pick myself back up and move forward.
I reiterate moments come in all shapes and sizes. It’s not just about shaking up or changing your life either. What about changing someone else’s life for the better? What can you do to help other people?
I was originally going to write a list with this post about how you can create life-changing moments. But I doubt you need to read that list.
Deep down you probably know what you need for your next life-changing event. You need the courage to take the first step and the willpower, determination, and perseverance to see it through.
If the thought of change scares you look at it a different way. Think of it as expanding life, improving life, celebrating life.
You KNOW what to do. It’s buried deep inside of you where you left it sleeping. It’s time to wake up. When was your last positive life-changing moment?
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