Asking ourselves the tough questions isn’t easy, but it’s something that each of us needs to do if we want to move our lives forward.
Let’s look at 6 challenging questions to ask yourself.
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Are you happy with your life right now?
Think about this question for a while. Roll it around in your head. This isn’t an are you happy in general question – which I certainly hope you are by the way.
It’s more an overall question of am I happy with my life as it is right now or are there major changes I would like to make?
Will you be happy if you are in the exact same spot in 12 months time?
Imagine nothing changing over the next 12 months – next year is more of the same. Your job or business, relationships, weight, living arrangements, financial situation, health, social life all stay exactly the same.
Basically it’s same old, same old.
Would you be happy with your life if nothing changed in a year?
Related post – How Will You Make This Year Better Than Last Year
What the hell are you waiting for?
I hope you answered NO to the above question.
The alternative is perhaps you have worked hard to get your life exactly where you want it. If that is the case, I congratulate you. You’ve put in the hard slog and gotten to where you want to be (at least for now).
It’s understandable you would like to stay in your comfort zone for a while. You would like some time out to stop and smell the roses. Fair enough.
For those of you who answered NO however it’s a completely different story.
The people who answered no are craving more challenge, more excitement or success. There are elements of their life they really want to improve on or change.
Excellent!
The question now remains – what the hell are you waiting for?
What is stopping you?
If you have a head full of plans and dreams but nothing is happening than something must be stopping you.
It’s your responsibility (and nobody else’s) to ditch the excuses, work out what is stopping you and get busy chasing after what it is you want.
It is your job to find the conflicts in your lifestyle that stop you getting where you want to be.
I will give you an example. Say you want to start a project or side business in your spare time but lack of funds is stopping you (or that is at least the excuse you tell yourself).
Therefore your goal is to get out of debt or at least get yourself into a position where you can put some savings aside to get the ball rolling. Yet despite this goal, you make no changes to your shopping habits, socializing or lifestyle. Somehow you think your debt will mysteriously vanish despite the fact that you are regularly spending more than you earn.
You are the one holding yourself back.
What are you afraid of?
As we have discussed several times on this blog, it usually comes down to good old basic fear.
Fear that we will screw up, fear that we will take a huge risk and fall on our face. Fear of what other people will think of us. Fear of people viewing us differently. Basically the list is endless, which is kind of my point.
There will always be fear lingering around in the background. If you are waiting for all of your fears to go away before you try something bold or different you could be in for a long wait and as we all know, we only get so much time.
Waiting for fear to subside is not an option.
Fear and self-doubt go hand in hand. But the great news is self-doubt is a habit and habits can be changed. I recently completed an excellent course How to Break the Habit of Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence by Mel Robbins over at CreativeLive.
You can read my review of the course here. If you want to get serious about breaking the habit of self-doubt, I highly recommend taking this course.
What plans do you have to make change happen?
Just for the record luck is not a plan. Nor is ‘let’s see what happens’. Nor is winning the lotto. Sitting back and doing nothing isn’t an option if you want to change the direction of your life.
If you are having trouble breaking down your plan into manageable chunks (or even working out what your plan should be in the first place) the Slay Your Goals Planner can definitely help. Download a copy of the Free Slay Your Goals Guide to get started.
Doing nothing means you will be in exactly the same place when 2019 comes rolling around (which takes us back to question 2).
You need to have a solid, well thought out plan to make things happen and you need to act on that plan. It goes without saying, I can’t stress the act part strongly enough.
Your plan will most likely need to be changed as you go along, because you will find that some things work, while others don’t.
You may also need to change course, change direction or change strategy at some point – but none of that matters.
The important part is that you are working on your plan, you’re the one in charge and you are making wonderful things happen in your life.
Two other question based posts you might enjoy are –
- 20 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Had a Tough Year
- 20 Questions to Ask Yourself to Get Back on Track
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