Our lives can change for many reasons - changing careers, having more responsibility, lifestyle changes - just to name a few. While we may initiate and welcome these changes, we can still sometimes be surprised just how different our lives become. Read Love the New You - Coming to Grips with Change.

Major changes in our lives can be challenging. It can be challenging to love the new you with each major shift in our lives. Our lives can sometimes change so much that we fail to recognize ourselves.

As someone who has recently been diagnosed with a chronic illness, it can be hard to reconcile who I used to be, not that long ago, and who I am now. Loving the new you takes on a whole different meaning when you have ongoing health issues where you can no longer live the life you are used to.

Back in the day, I used to be a bit of a party girl.

When I started this blog that was another major transition in my life.

After a busy week of work and writing, I sometimes find myself climbing into bed at 8 pm ready for sleep. On a Friday night! Not that long ago, I was out partying until all hours on a Friday night.

On rare occasions, I actually miss the Friday night party girl.

What has driven me for many years is my desire and determination to change and grow as a person. What drives me at the moment, is improving my health. It has been a challenging transition from a party girl to a chronic illness girl.

Here are some tips on ways to embrace both the new and old parts of yourself and love the new you.

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Seek out more meaning

At some point in our lives, we start to search for more meaning. We begin to dig deeper for more substance.

Trivial, unimportant issues no longer hit our radar.

Whether it is a result of maturing, suffering a loss, or even something wonderful happening to you, it is important to reach a better understanding of yourself and the people around you.

Don’t be afraid to have a long hard look at yourself. You might be delighted and surprised at who you find.

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Look beyond the superficial

When I was younger I loved makeup. I mean I loved it. I bought a lot of it.

I would spend hours doing my hair (trying to curl it to be precise and then spraying it with tons of thick hair lacquer to keep it in place). May I point out, that this was during the ’80s when it was quite the rage, in case I’m scaring anyone!

Now I blow dry my hair a couple of times a year if I’m lucky (I have to mention my hair has never been in better condition) and I own one lipstick.

Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against makeup and grooming. Now I simply choose to look past the makeup, clothes, handbags, and accessories and try to SEE the person wearing them.

In our celebrity-obsessed culture, I think it’s more important than ever not to embrace the superficial. 

So much emphasis is put on celebrities (and I use that term loosely).

I have a shocking announcement coming, so prepare yourself – Celebrities are just people. They might make more money or be better looking, but they are simply people. They eat, cry, sleep, and breathe – just like the rest of us.

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Understand it’s not just about your age

I’m sure growing older has mellowed me in many ways.

Yet in saying that I know twenty-somethings that have never gone through a party phase and have no intention of doing so and sixty-year-olds that have never stopped partying!

Stereotyping people into boxes of – who does what at what age – can be inaccurate (not to mention unfair).

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Embrace quality over quantity

In our consumer society, we tend to value things. Lots and lots of things.

Somewhere along the way we have developed a ‘whoever has the most stuff wins’ mentality. Don’t buy into this.

Having more stuff does not bring a richer, happier life. More likely, it will fill your life with crap that you don’t use or want.

Not to mention, waste plenty of your hard-earned money along the way.

The same can be said for friendships and relationships. Whilst people have a lot of casual acquaintances, it is also important to nurture close relationships.

By close friends, I mean the friends you can call at 2 am in the morning when your life has just spiraled out of control.  The friend you ring when a parent passes away suddenly. The one who will be there for you in your darkest hour.

Whether it’s your career, family or your relationships seek purpose and quality in the way you spend your time.

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Help others

There is nothing quite as capable of taking the focus off ourselves, as helping other people.

Whether we want to reach out on a local, community, country, or global level –  there are always opportunities to help people who are less fortunate or due to circumstances at the time, simply need a helping hand. Volunteer to help others.

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Resist the urge to be judgmental

This one can get a bit tricky. When we develop a clear vision of our own values and beliefs, we can sometimes see things as black and white. Right or wrong. We fail to see the gray areas.

We view life through our own filters.

The key I believe is twofold, keep an open mind and never stop learning.

Because I have chosen a certain path, does not mean someone else should do the same. 

Each of us is entitled to make our own decisions. Try not to be judgmental when someone chooses a path, not to your liking.

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Make sure fun is still on the agenda

Obviously, it’s important to still have fun. Bear in mind however that your idea of fun might also change as you develop and grow.

Recently I went to New York on holiday with three girlfriends. New York is one of my favorite cities. We had a fantastic time and rest assured there was no being asleep in bed by 8 pm on that trip!

No matter what changes you go through in life, be the best version of yourself and always love yourself for who you truly are.

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