When I announced my recent trip to New York to attend Blog World, I noticed a few similar responses from people.
They went something like this.
‘I’ve always wanted to go to New York. One day I’ll get there.’
‘I’ll go someday.’
‘Maybe next year.’
The common theme in most of these statements – the words and implication of one day or someday.
As many of us know only too well, someday or one day rarely ever comes.
Both of these words belong to a place in time, far off in the distance that we often can’t visualize or comprehend. Someday and one day are simply too vague to motivate us into taking immediate action.
Which leads me to wonder, why do we leave something we desperately want up to a time frame so incredibly vague?
It can be easy to fall into the someday trap. I’m guilty of this myself. It is an extreme form of tomorrowitis which I have written about here on the blog.
Sometimes it can be a simple case of what we say we want and what we actually want are two different things. You will have a lot more motivation to follow through on your goals if you know exactly what they are.
Often it is a case of changing priorities, which is normal since we all need to prioritize both our time and money. Life changes and we need to change with it.
Making an event happen someday takes actual work, planning and in some cases sacrifice.
Whether we like to admit it or not, getting what we truly want can often take sacrifice. Unfortunately we can’t have everything (as much as some media outlets like to tell us otherwise in their efforts to sell the ‘you can have it all’ with your credit card lifestyle). Usually we need to sacrifice something, even if it’s on a short-term basis.
I know many people don’t view planning as very sexy. Often people prefer to be spontaneous, which is wonderful if your spontaneity yields the desired results.
Have you ever heard someone constantly say they were going to do something and known instinctively that it was never going to happen? This is a situation people generally don’t want to be in. We like to think our word means something; that our promises, commitments and words have substance.
Even the expression, ‘I’ll do it next year’ can be dangerous without a plan or actual motivation to back it up.
If you have enrolled in a course for next year or started a savings account with automatic deductions for your holiday, then you are on the right track. No matter how far in the distance your big dream or event is, if you start working on an actionable plan (complete with due dates for delivery) you are heading in the right direction.
I have planned a lot of vacations well over a year in advance.
When you hear yourself using the words someday or one day think about how much you want this particular event or action. How strongly you want to go to New York or start your university degree or work on your small business on the side will generally have a tremendous impact on whether or not you take the action steps to make it happen.
Try to erase someday from your vocabulary. Understand this word can become toxic. It can keep you living in limbo, feeling like your life will start at some predestined point in the future.
Your life is happening right now.
Instead choose to make the most of today as well as planning for the future. Think more along the lines of knowing exactly what you want and working towards making it happen.
Start paying more attention to the intention behind your words. Ask yourself, how badly do I want this?
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